This post has been in my head for a VERY LONG TIME.
I’ve been blogging for 4 and a half years now which is a loooong time. For the first several months, I kept this blog a secret because I didn’t want to be ridiculed or shamed for it. You never know how people will react and my blog was the only place I could fully talk about books without boring people or being told “can you talk about/share anything else“? I didn’t want anything to taint it. It was (and still is) my safe space.
After starting with college and becoming slightly more confident that I can brush off comments, I slowly started letting people in real life know about my blog. It started with casual mentions to new friends (whom I hadn’t become close to) as a trial to see how people would respond. And they were SO SUPPORTIVE. One of them actually asked for the link and binge-read my posts. It’s not a surprise that we became close friends after that.
With my newfound confidence, I started mentioning my blog to older friends as well. The response was mixed but by that point I honestly didn’t care.
One thing that I’ve realized since then is that people without blogs often don’t know how to support bloggers. To many, blogs are an old and/or foreign concept. YouTube is easier nowadays and since that platform took off, most people don’t even consider blogs anymore which is part of the problem.
As a follow-up to that point, I also realized that people generally won’t ask how to support you. I assume that it’s because its sometimes embarrassing to not know but I could be wrong. They’ll either try and do their best or they’ll try and give up (the latter happens more often). Instagram is easier to understand, right?
This post is for all clueless and well-meaning friends who want to support their friends but don’t really know how to.
I’ve been wanting to make this post for at least a year now but brushed it off because I wasn’t sure if it will actually help or whether some people might consider this a personal attack. But you know what? It doesn’t matter. I’m just going to post this and deal with what happens, even if it doesn’t get read.
Also side note, this is tangentially in-theme with current conversations on twitter where many people are calling out the fact that book bloggers don’t get as much attention or praise as booktubers and bookstagrammers. Book loggers constantly support creators of other platforms but don’t get the same treatment. Bloggers work just as hard on their content. Support. Your. Blogger. Friends.
 Read their blog posts
Even if the blog posts are not about a topic that you are interested in, you can still give it a read or a breeze-through. Oftentimes, blog posts are also about the bloggers themselves.
If you don’t have the time or energy, you can simply open the link and stay on it for a few seconds which counts as a view.
Blogs are like any other social media in this one aspect. We often look obsessively at our the number of views we get because it means that so many people bothered to see our content and care about our words. Views matter just as much as likes and comments. You don’t have to interact with the post.
For example, I have many days where I receive little to no engagement in the form of likes or comments. But I see that a certain number of people visited and read my content. That alone gives me a rush of satisfaction and motivation to continue blogging.
Supporting your friend can be as easy as opening a link to a blog post.
 Comment if you can.
It’s completely alright if you don’t relate with the content and don’t know what to say, or you don’t have enough energy to do it. But if you do have something to say, drop a comment! It’s generally very easy to leave comments on blogs.
We’re all well-versed with social media and how people love comments on their posts. Many people (probably including you) drop comments on Instagram posts easily. Why not do it on blogs then? And I assure you, it means just as much if not more on blogs.
Blogging (in most cases) takes way more time than posting on Instagram. We have to write lengthy posts, proofread, add images, make specific graphics to go with the post, and even format the post so it’s easier for YOU to read.
An appreciate comment means so much to bloggers.
If you’re a blogger, I’m sure you’ve noticed that it’s generally only bloggers who comment on other blogs. It’s because only we know how much they mean. A blog post does not get comments easily. But that is also why they can matter more to bloggers.
 Share on your socials!
Something that blogs see lesser than comments are shares. And even then it’s almost always other bloggers sharing.
Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love how welcoming and friendly the blogging community is. We’re constantly sharing each other’s posts and commenting and basically giving attention to as many people as we can.
If you’re not a blogger, you don’t know about what it’s like to be one unless a blogger explains it all to you. And hence you might not know how much we value shares.
Even if the shares don’t result in new followers or readers, it means a LOT that you took the time to share a post. And since I’m on Instagram as well, I know that people do frequently share Instagram posts to support. Yes, that is easy to do with just two taps. But if you could spend a few extra seconds to share your blogger friend’s post, I guarantee you, their day would be made.
 Talk about the blog!
I’m not saying you should become your blogger friend’s ambassador and recommend their blog to everyone (although that would be awesome).
Simply mentioning a fact from one of their blog posts to them in conversations or letting them know that you read and liked their post is HUGE. You might think that you reading their blog post won’t count as much if they receive other views but IT DOES.
Letting them know that you read their content which they spent a lot of time and effort on, and liked it, can make their day and even turn a bad day into a good one. Blogging is also a form of art. It requires creativity, time, and effort. Compliment your blogger friends like you would compliment your artist friends. I guarantee you, it means just as much.
This also helps bring blogging into conversations. Not all bloggers are super proud and confident. Not everyone is self-assured enough to promote their work often. It took me MONTHS to mention my blog to my friends even after deciding that I want to. And I still generally don’t talk about my blog because I don’t want to come off as attention-seeking or unintentionally monopolize the conversation.
When you share you blogger friend’s work, more people will find their blog and can like it. And it also lets your bloggers friend know that them talking about their blogs often is welcome.
If you think that your friend does not want you to read their blog, you can simply ask them that. But its mostly not the case. We simply don’t bring it up because more often that not people are not interested in listening to us talk about our blog or blogging in general.
You know why many people consider blogging as a thing of the past even though there are tons of AMAZING blogs on the internet with better content than you will ever find on YouTube? Because people don’t talk about blogs enough anymore.
I’d like to take this moment to quickly shout-out and say THANK YOU to all my friends from real life who take the time to go through my posts and talk to me about it. Some read every post and tell me that they liked it, some read and mention parts of a post in off-hand comments weeks later in conversations, and some of you actively let me know that I’m doing great. A couple of you even follow me. It honestly means a lot and I remember every single comment/mention because it doesn’t happen often.
 Follow via email
I never thought that this would be a fact which non-bloggers wouldn’t know until I was told first-hand “I can’t follow you since I don’t have WordPress”. You can follow blogs via email!
And it’s a wonderful feature too. You just add in your email address where its asked (usually in sidebars or footers on blogs) and hit subscribe or follow. Here’s an example:
Every time the blogger posts, you will get an email with the post so that you can keep up with posts even if the blogger hasn’t shared it on social media.
Of course, this is only if you really want to and you don’t have to do it. But it would be nice.
And that’s it! These are the easiest and most basic things you can do to support your friend.
Bloggers, if you want to share this post and not-so-subtly provide a handy guide for your friends who are clueless but well-meaning, that is also why I made this post so go ahead and do it.