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if we were having tea… // 2nd May 2020

It’s been a while since I last posted a life update… and I have quite a bit to update on.

At least, that’s what it felt like in the last few weeks. Every time I want to post a life update, I don’t get the time to sit and write a long post. I end up doing a book review or something which is easier to write.

But it’s a long weekend this time, and you can bet that I have things to share.

So get a hot cup of your favourite drink and settle in to chat with me for a bit.

P. S. I’m just typing as I think and I’m not proof-reading in order to not edit my thoughts. So if there are typos or things that don’t make sense.. go with it lol.

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If we were having tea… the first thing I’d update you on is my blog’s status. I FINALLY got a custom domain! Getting a custom domain to take my blog a little further has been in my mind for at least two years. I started becoming more serious about it around a year back, and I researched about WordPress plans and tons of different options.

The number of options and each of them meaning different things got me confused and nervous. At this point my blog has a good SEO ranking for some of my posts, and I get most of my views from search engines. I was worried about losing my SEO ranking because it’s a huge thing for me to get views from search engines.

I hesitated because of that and pushed it away saying that I will consider it again when I start to earn. Well, I started to get a stipend in January. And I procrastinated on this decision again.

A couple days back I was randomly looking at advice websites and asked a couple questions to bloggers on Twitter. It led me down to the same rabbit hole again. Eventually, I got tired of it and decided to push it away. AGAIN.

But at around 11pm I realized that if I don’t finally do something, I will never do anything. And I did the thing with the least amount of risk. I signed up for a Personal plan on WordPress which gives me a custom domain.

My blog is no more residing at thewordyhabitat.wordpress.com! It’s thewordyhabitat.in now. I have to say, I’m so excited about a smaller URL. It looks much better.

And now that I’ve done this, I won’t be going back. So it’s only forward from now on. I’m considering getting a host, migrating, and will be figuring out my next steps soon. Not immediately, but I feel like I am on that path now. That’s better than nothing.

If we were having tea…I’d talk about how I miss conversations and voices. I’m not a very talkative person in real life but I do like listening to conversation. No clue why but I like listening to people to speak without having to contribute myself. I do speak as well, but just listening in feels good too.

So during this lockdown (which has now extended until May 17th at least), that’s what I’ve been missing about people the most. Conversations. Listening to people speak.

I do have video calls with my friends sometimes. There was a video call with my book club last week and a voice call with some of my friends two days back. My best friends just called me and now I’m talking with them as I’m writing this. It’s not the same but it helps.

Not going to lie, I crave some small connection at all times. Like listening to music with people while doing our own things. I don’t want to talk but I want to stay connected with people, you know?

If we were having tea… I’d talk about how I’m losing touch with people. You know how you expect that you will lose touch with some people after college personally, but not in a group setting? Just individual relationships? It’s happening already and I’m not sure how to feel about it. There are friends I haven’t spoken to in two months and have no clue about.

I’m not big on personal texts. I text about two people casually, that’s it. So group conversations are when I actually find out things and talk to people. Without that.. I don’t know. I miss group conversations where everyone’s present. That’s all.

If we were having tea… I’d vent a little. It’s quite expected that our senior year events and activities would get cancelled. I expected it. But it’s really hitting me only now and I’m sad. I wanted a farewell, a graduation. I don’t know if we’ll have them now.

As far as I know, the university is planning on keeping our exams as soon as possible and finishing with the finals within a week (since we have only 3 theory subjects). The other 3 which don’t have written exams will be evaluated later. The point is to get it all done quick so we can start our jobs and further studies on time.

We literally did not have a final semester. It’s basically over at this point. Even on the online classes, almost all the subjects are done teaching. I’m not someone who is nostalgic a lot but.. that has been my mood for the last few days.

If we were having tea… you’d find out that I’m finally missing outside food! I don’t crave outside food a lot, especially since my gluten free diet time. I just.. don’t care about junk food like all of my friends anymore. I don’t miss pizza or burgers or ice cream. Anything.

But a few days back I saw a poster of tacos and just ?? missed tacos ??? I don’t even LIKE tacos! It didn’t last long, though. And now I’m back to being indifferent about junk food.

If we were having tea… I’d talk about how managing college AND work is not happening. I have classes from 9am to 12pm Thursday to Saturday and my work starts at 11am during the week. So for two days every week, I have to juggle between the two.

So what happens is that on Thursdays and Fridays, I spend a lot of time looking at screens. And for one hour on both days, I have two laptops open. One where the class is going on and one on which I’m working. I hate this, it’s not productive. I don’t even listen to the classes half the time because I have to go bath or eat breakfast.

The classes are not useful, especially when many topics are ones we’ve studied before in previous semesters. What’s the point in classes? I don’t want to attend them but they’re counted towards attendance??

And there is no concession for students doing internships like before lockdown. We had concession before since we can’t be in two places at once but now since we’re at home and can do both, we have to attend classes.

Yes I’m ranting. I need to rant. Bear with me.

If we were having tea… I’d talk about how I’m losing sense of time. Every day kind of feels the same. The only difference between weekday and weekend is whether I’m working and have classes or not.

Sometimes it feels like time is going slow and other times days pass before I notice. I’m barely keeping up with posting here as it is. Am I the only one feeling this way?

If we were having tea… I’d say that I’m currently watching Orphan Black season 4 with a friend. Back when I watched the show for the first time, season 5 was still airing so I stopped after 3 to concentrate on school and thought I’ll watch once the show is done. But I never got back to it.

The show keeps giving twists lol. I’m honestly watching it because I want to know how it ends. It’s not that great anymore.

If we were having tea… I wouldn’t say much more and would listen to you. I thought I had a lot to say and at the moment maybe it felt like things I wanted to share, but I don’t remember many of those things anymore. It’s all blurring together and feel inconsequential.

Honestly every time I want to connect with people I read blogs. I read the blogs I follow and find new ones on Twitter. Reading books and blogs keep me afloat nowadays.


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If we were having tea, what would you tell me?

25 thoughts on “if we were having tea… // 2nd May 2020”

  1. Congratulations on getting your own domain! I definitely miss face-to-face convos with people, video chat just isn’t the same. I’m also losing sense of time, I never know what day it is, haha! Lovely post 😁

    Anika | chaptersofmay.com

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  2. Yep. I can totally relate to many of your points:) though are situations is different, let me tell you, I miss outside food SO MUCH! I am so over my own cooking. This week we finally could order in and everything felt yummier:) Sense of time is very hard to maintain, but I keep telling myself it doesn’t really matter what day it is as long as it has been a good one:) stay safe and well. and congratulations on your new domain!

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    1. We all need a break from our food sometimes. I’m so done with eating rice but we generally don’t have wheat in our diet so we’re using wheat food as the change in our meals haha. I’m glad you got to order in finally! Staying optimistic is definitely something that will help.
      And thank you, Madi! I hope you stay safe and healthy as well 😊

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  3. It’s the simple things I miss, in lockdown, sitting in Corte having a tea and reading, time is a funny one at the moment what I find helps, is having something you do every day, at a specific time e.g. dinner at 6pm, or watch a program that’s on at the same time. Even at the weekend do things differently say where smarter clothes Monday to Friday and slum it on a weekend. I am not saying to structure or life minute by minute, but some fixed points around the day/week. Help.

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    1. I started out quite strong with a routine, actually! I even dressed up for work timing and changed into PJs after work. But as the days go on, I’m letting go of those things one by one. Right now the only real routine I have is working out in the mornings to wake myself up.

      Thanks for the comment! Stay safe and healthy πŸ’›

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  4. I can relate to some of the things you say. I definitely lose track of time and most of the days I don’t even know which day of the week it is, and it makes me upset. I appreciate sticking to a routine and actually have things to look foward to.
    And I also miss outside food a lot, is crazy. I know is a silly worry/complain, but I just miss going outside and get junk food. And do most of the normal things I can’t do right now.
    I’m sorry your senior year had to be so unusual. I couldn’t imagine having my senior year (which is next year) be like this, since it’s suppossed to be special.
    Leaving gloomy things aside, congrats on your custom domain! That’s a great step towards growing your blog and brand. I hope I can do it somedayπŸ’•

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    1. First of all, thanks for this long comment Cielo! And I relate to everything you said. It might be silly to complain but we’re allowed to miss normalcy and routine.
      Thank you! I’m sure you’ll do it someday as well 😊

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  5. Congratulations on your new domain chumeπŸ’œπŸ’œ I miss you, can’t wait for this lockdown to end so we can meet 😦

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  6. Congrats on your own domain!! That’s so cool! I admit all the options and the way WordPress describes it all cannn be confusing πŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒ and i too feel like I’m falling out of touch w peopl!! I just feel like it’s so much more effort to stay in touch virtually vs at school I just see people everyday or run into people randomly… great post!!

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  7. Congrats on the custom domain! Thankfully we’ve been able to get take-out here the entire time. If not, I would be so sick of cooking. And my family would be sick of my cooking. πŸ˜‰

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  8. I really like the whole β€œif we were having tea” kinda post. It makes posts flow in a lyrical way at least in my opinion lol. I may borrow that idea except ill use coffee haha. Congrats on your domain! I need to start looking into buying one but they are sooooooo expensive & I still have bills to pay haha

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    1. When I initially found this idea in another blog it was “if we were having coffee… (or tea)” but the title was too long for me and I’m a tea person, so I made it into this. These posts are really nice to write, I’m sure you’ll feel the same 😊

      Thank you! I hear ya. I finally jumped in only after 4 years, and I’m still unsure haha.

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